God chose you to raise your neurodivergent children.

Don’t let fear tell you you’re the wrong woman for the job

Most days, you feel like the only woman on the planet

raising kids who are…

A lot.

You’re awed by their ability but dismayed by their unorthodox approach to everything.

Friendships are hard.

Social gatherings are impossible.

School work is a challenge even though you know it shouldn’t be,

and the challenges you face with regards to faith, reason, and morality?

It’s enough to make St. Augustine cry.

On the hard days, you wonder why God chose you as the mother of these children.

Most days, you just just feel alone.

You’re not alone

You never have been.

Find community in The Zelie Society, an affordable small group coaching experience.

The Zelie Society upholds the challenging vocation of raising the unique and unrepeatable.

You’ll get equipped. You’ll get inspired. You’ll help your family thrive.

Welcome to Not So Formulaic, a refuge for Catholic moms raising exceptional kids

We believe grace grows in the soil of raising the quirky and exceptional. We believe God equips the women He’s chosen to raise the unrepeatable and unique. Most importantly, we believe God gives curious, creative, intense children the exact mother they need to help them thrive and flourish.

You are not a mistake.

You have not failed in your vocation.

You are the mother your children need.

Hey, there

I’m Ginny, Catholic mom to three neurodivergent kids

I know what it’s like to raise curious, creative, intense children –

To be bowled over by your children’s brilliance, only to wonder why no one else is.

To be so exhausted by meltdowns, obsessive interests, outbursts, and anxiety you don’t have the energy to clean your house.

To lose sleep because despite all that potential and ability, you wonder if they’ll ever be able to function on their own.

I’ve been at the breaking point.

I’ve felt like a failure as a mother.

But I’ve come to see God’s grace in this unique and unrepeatable vocation, and through the path God walked beside me, this ministry was born.

Build virtue, strengthen executive function skills, encourage critical thinking, and more

with resources from the Not So Formulaic shop.

Made for Greatness

A Growth Mindset Journal for Courageous Catholic Youth

To Hear His Voice

A Mass Journal for Catholic Kids

Peace on Purpose

An Organizational, Motivational Guide for Catholic Tweens and Tweens

Patron Saint Toolkit

Because Your Child Needs a Posse

Bring peace to your household and help your child thrive

Download this free quick start guide, which includes

5 Myths About Raising Quirky Kiddos (understand your children’s God-given differences and cherish those quirks as gifts)
The Exceptional Child Information Sheet (a handy, at-a-glance guide for teachers, parents, babysitters, mentors, and coaches)
100 Patron Saints for Exceptional Kids (a curated list of intercessors categorized by temperament, interest, and more)

What Moms Like You Are Saying

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Finding Ginny and her community has been a God send: finally someone who gets it because she is living it every day. Her strength and her faith inspire me to keep moving forward with raising my beautifully, wonderfully, and oh so uniquely made children.

– MH

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People who don’t have a gifted or 2e child do not understand how difficult it can be. When I try to explain the quirks of my kids to people, it sounds like I’m bragging. I don’t have to worry about that here with this community, we understand each other, support each other when we are at our wits end or made a mistake, celebrate our little victories and pray for each other. This community really has been a God send.

– AM

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Before finding this community, I always felt alone and out of touch with other mothers; they didn’t understand the struggles I was going through with my child. Here, I feel understood and validated in my feelings. While it is a struggle to raise an exceptional child, through this [community], I have learned to see the beauty and goodness in it as well.

– AM